By Jim Meridith
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      A Celebration of Sandy’s life will be held at a later date.

    • Full Obituary

      Sandra Jo “Sandy” Hammer, 72, of Highland, IL, passed away Thursday, March 2, 2023, at St. Elizabeth’s Hospital in O’Fallon, IL.

      Sandy was born Dec. 19, 1950, in Highland, IL, to Raymond Eugene and Marion Adele (nee Schmiedeke) Schwend. She married Thomas Hammer on Dec. 23, 1969, in Trenton, IL.

      Sandy was a lifelong Highland resident, attending Highland elementary and high school, graduating in 1969. She was a member of the Evangelical United Church of Christ. She was a stay-at-home mom as she raised her two daughters and became a Girl Scout leader.

      In 1981, she joined the family-owned business, Schwend’s Ready-Mix Concrete, working as a secretary in Highland and Troy until she retired in 2012.

      She loved caring for her flowers and plants and was admired for taking care of other people. She was loved by everyone for her selflessness and for putting everyone’s needs before her own. She was loved by her many Dachshund pets, including Sammy, Trixie, Ween and Sabrina. Nothing compared to Sandy’s love for family. She adored her grandchildren and loved attending their sporting and social events. Sandy loved traveling with family, especially to Hawaii and Florida.

      She is survived by her husband, Tom Hammer, Highland, IL; daughters, Michelle (Clinton) Tompkins, Highland, IL, Vanessa (Michael) Conley, St. Louis, MO; granddaughters, Elaina Tompkins, Highland, IL and Ella Conley, St. Louis, MO; one grandson, Jon Conley, Nashville, TN; sisters, Terri (Steve) Holt, Highland, IL, Jeanne (Gary) Huber, Trenton, IL; brother, David (Carol) Schwend, Highland, IL; and many beloved nieces, nephews, cousins, in-laws and friends.

      She was preceded in death by her parents, Raymond and Marion Schwend; brother, Richard Schwend.

      Memorials made be made to the Madison County Humane Society or organization of donor’s choice.

      A Celebration of Sandy’s life will be held at a later date.

      Meridith Funeral Home, Highland, IL.

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    1. Betty Eilers / March 3, 2023 at 9:24 pm

      Tom & Girls
      So sorry for your loss…she was such a sweet lady.
      Keep her memories alive by telling those great stories you have. Our thoughts are with you all.
      Dick & Betty Eilers and family.

    2. Mike and Pat / March 4, 2023 at 9:55 am

      So sorry for your loss, may God give you comfort

    3. Rick and Ruth Zurliene / March 4, 2023 at 8:55 pm

      Dear Tom and daughters
      our deepest sympathy to you and your family
      so sorry for your loss
      God bless Ruth and Rick Zurliene

    4. Russell & Marsha Rinderer / March 5, 2023 at 12:51 pm

      Our sympathy goes out to Tom and daughters. Tom was Russells best friend in the school years. He also was in our wedding. We spent time with Sandy and Tom after our marriage. Sandy was a very good friend. We may have lost touch in the last years but again we have the memories and you as a family will have memories
      to remember also. Our prayers are with all of you at this difficult time.
      Russell & Marsha Rinderer

    5. Bunn and KellyYoung / March 6, 2023 at 10:09 am

      Sandy had such a beautiful soul. She was a great friend and we will miss her always.

    6. Donna Conley / March 6, 2023 at 11:02 am

      I will miss Sandy. Through faith I know we will meet again. Ella and Jon worshipped her. I am a better person for having know her. Love, Donna Conley

    7. Daniel (Butch) Schrage / March 6, 2023 at 12:03 pm

      My prayers for your loss. She was a wonderful lady. God be with you and the girls..

    8. Aaron the Dwarf / March 6, 2023 at 8:56 pm

      Sandy was a wonderful and elegant lady with a big heart and a bigger laugh !! I will always hold fond memories of her and the amazing christmas parties she arranged during my Emix years with y’all. I’m sure she’s having a wonderful reunion with Richie and Geno and Marion right now, and the gates of heaven are ringing with her seemingly endless exuberance for life and family. May her family, kids and grandkids echo the smile she brought to so many over the years ! A life lived in joy and Christ is never lived in vain 🙂

    9. Debbie (Benhoff) Wilke / March 6, 2023 at 9:15 pm

      Tom and Family: My deepest sympathy for your loss. You and Sandy were so good to Ken and me when we were just starting our family. We enjoyed your friendship and company so much. I will keep you in prayer as you journey through this difficult time.

    10. Carol Bunse / March 7, 2023 at 12:05 pm

      Micki, my deepest sympathy for the loss of your Mother. I will keep her and your family in my prayers.

    11. Paul an Janell Weinacht / March 7, 2023 at 12:42 pm

      Tom my sympathy goes out to you an your daughters an there families. 🙏🏼🙏🏼

    12. Alvin Bowen / March 7, 2023 at 2:49 pm

      My heartfelt sympathy to all they family and may God, ease your pain knowing she will be awaiting you at the gates of heaven May her love and your love transcend even unto heaven to be forever in the hearts of those who loved her as she will never die as long as she lives in the hearts of those she left behind. Tom, Vanessa,Mike,Ella,Jon, I and all the family were blessed to have known Sandy’s love and kindness in life even if for a moment in time or many years. GOD BLESS❤️ Poppy

    13. Kathy Ottensmeier / March 11, 2023 at 9:13 am

      Tom and your daughters,
      We are so sorry for your loss. She will
      Be missed greatly. In our prayers

      Gervase and Kathy Ottensmeier

    14. Dale &Jan Sloan / March 12, 2023 at 1:50 pm

      Tom, so sorry to hear about your loss of Sandy, our hearts go out to you and your daughters. She was a very nice lady and we enjoyed running into you from time to time and looking back on the years. May God bless you and your family 🙏

    15. Barb and Bill Gutzler / March 13, 2023 at 3:32 pm

      Tom we are sorry to hear about Sandy. Our sympathy to you and your family

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